If you’ve made it here, sit back, grab a beverage and put your feet up. This is one tasty book. I saw this book pop up as advertisement on Facebook and ignored it the first few times. I finally decided to click it and see what it was all about. Now, if you know me, you know I’m a BIG self help girl. I am enthralled with constantly improving myself so that I can be the best wife and mother possible. Throughout my collegiate endeavors, things came pretty readily to me. I always lived a simple life and kept things right where they belonged…I know, I sound like tons of fun LOL. I made beautifully laid plans on paper and checked things of my lists. I pretty much had things figured out and wrapped in a cute little box until I had my son and he unwrapped that box, smashed it and threw the bow in the toilet. I realized life is unpredictable and I must be willing to ride the waves and flow with the current.
Myles has always known what he wants and I like to call him “passionate.” There is no question about wether he is for or against something. I struggled to discipline him because he is equally expressive of my “Yes, of course you can have that cookie” and my “No, you cannot have that toy.” He was much more expressive than other kids who would just reply “Ok, mom.” Needless to say, we were both frustrated. This is not my first go around with parenting books. I have read several others but for some reason something really clicked with this one. This book talks about the upstairs vs downstairs brain. I realized I had high expectations for him and was expecting him to function at a level in which he was not capable of performing. I also realized, without the foundation to understand where a child is developmentally, I easily get lost in the shuffle of what was considered constructive. Now that I have a knowledge base for understanding the ‘why’ I am better at meeting both him and my daughter where they are and giving them what they need thereby allowing us to have a healthy relationship with open and respectful communication. I highly recommend reading this one….take my word for it, you won’t regret it.
Stay Zen Mama Hens!